What we don't take into account is that women are the primary care givers of men since infancy. The very young man is completely dependent on a female, his mother for survival. That basic fact is a memory a male can't possibly ignore or forget.
I think you have it about right. It's strength versus shame. Usually strength is the only topic mentioned in the battle of the sexes. But the power of shame is just as powerful, but you never hear about it's usage by women. Look at how women are so much more skilled verbally. In a world where strength no longer accounts for much, verbal skills are much more useful.