There is an interesting document from the Bureau of Labor Statistics(BLS) called Labor Force change 1950-2050. It was published in 2002 and it contains projections for labor force participation. Having a job seems to the minimum standard for a man to qualify for a full time relationship with a woman.

Here are some of the more interesting numbers. In 1950, 86.4 % of men were employed and 33.9 % of women. In 2020, 70.3 % of men were working with 60.3 % of women. No wonder women are feeling underappreciated. The change gets worse by 2050, overall 66.8 % of men will be working with 56.6 % women working close to parity. 65+ is notable since in 2020 21.0 % of men will still be working with 12.6 % of women working. By the way my boomer generation will be 84-104 in 2050 if they are still around.

According to Time magazine

Going into 2021, the U.S. economy generally seems strong — especially for women, who hold the majority of jobs for the first time in almost a decade. Women held 50.04% of American jobs as of December, excluding farm workers and the self-employed, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. That’s up from 49.7% just one year ago.

What’s driving the surge in female employment? The two industries that experienced the biggest overall gains, health care and retail, both employ many women and are fueled in part by demand from economically-empowered female consumers, says Amanda Weinstein, assistant professor of economics at the University of Akron.

Sounds good for women until you realize retail, healthcare and another popular profession for women, food service/processing are at the bottom of the wage scale. There are very few men in these professions.

I know I am talking a lot about work and not about relationships. But you have to realize women expect a man to have job before a relationship starts. Men don't care one way or another.

A "good" available man 35-55 may be paying child support or alimony. A woman seeking companionship may be receiving payments from a previous relationship but won't consider a man with these same obligations. The dating pool gets smaller if you eliminate men who are out of work or making payments on a previous relationships.

Men want sex, women want security then sex. Women are locked in culture that virtually disqualifies all men. No matter what a man does - pay the check, split the check or have the woman pay the check he is wrong. Woman feel they are compromising no matter how good a man treats them. Woman want love but they don't want to compromise. Woman in their forties genuinely believe they are as attractive as they were in their 20's. Women are verbally abuse to men and are appalled when a man tries to verbally defend himself or decides to avoid her.

Finally, there are the women with standards. You read these articles in Medium about how women are so happy since they have standards ! Standards are excuse to not date and not be hurt by a failed relationship. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Some women settle for the wine box and the cat box to a loving relationship with a man. And they get plenty of support from their female friends when they make the ridiculous statement "there are no good men out there".

Women will need to find a way to compromise. Women are more financially secure than ever before. Men aren't as financially secure as they once were. If a woman wants to flaunt her wealth in a relationship, her man will be hurt and find his way out of the relationship. If a woman wants a man to "change" he will resist by leaving her. Above all respect the fact a man is different from a woman and that's a good thing.

Computer engineer in Silicon Valley. Writing about topics that interest me and may interest you.

Computer engineer in Silicon Valley. Writing about topics that interest me and may interest you.