Testosterone in the healthy, normal males and females, ... the lower end of the male range being four- to five fold higher than the upper end of the female range(males 8.8-30.9 nmol/L, females 0.4-2.0 nmol/L).

Imagine if we pumped that level of testosterone into females. I don't like it and neither would you. Yes, men are hardwired as you describe. It's not something I feel guilty about. I would rather not experience these desires as strongly as a typical male does. Most of the time these desires are really annoying. 99.9 % of men deal with these desires successfully. Certainly there is a potential for a any male to act out. Let's not judge all males by the .1 percent of men that do cross the line of civil behavior.