Stereotypes are just that, stereotypes. Black women are free to set their own standards for their partner. Perhaps men have certain stereotypes in mind but one on one you learn what the real person is like. Once you are in a committed relationship you will forget the stereotypes. Families play a critical role in this too. Eventually they come around when they see a relationship that is working well.
Technically we are all gold diggers. We try to get the best partner possible considering what we have to offer.