It all started with your form fitting fushia outfit with thigh high boots and her dowdy brown outfit. And men are supposed to be the ones to objectivetify women because of their appearance? Your story is about what you worn and what she worn. Outfits started the differences you made between each other.
Then it became a relationship debate and you being judgemental about a happily married woman. How could she possibly be happy with a man that excerts control over her ? He loves her so much he doesn’t want to lose her to another man. In his mind if she wore a form fitting fushia outfit with thigh high boots some other man would take her from him. She is special in his mind, he adores her.
Men are drawn to sex, women are draw to be adored and respected. This other woman has found happiness. This isn’t a delusional. She is genuinely happy and feeling completed. Our culture seems to advocate rough self reliant woman with a big paycheck. Well the paycheck only lasts about two weeks. A loving relationship with another person can last a lifetime.