If you are about 40 as a women your choices are much more limited than 10-20 years ago. If you do find a man in his forties he better have a steady income otherwise you have found yourself a loser. An average income male in his forties has no incentive to marry a financially successful woman. Currently a typical successful women will feel the man should out earn her and be resentful if he isn’t.

All things being equal a man would prefer a younger woman. A forty something male can’t play the marriage lottery game since there is no way he will win the lottery. If he is forty and a good candidate he may have already been taken to divorce court and learned his lesson.

It’s kind of a hard lesson to learn for woman. Go to college, get advanced degrees and be so much in debt and you have to find a very time consuming job and follow a career until you’re in your late 30s / 40s. Look around for mate and find out all the men that are in the top 10% percent are having so much fun they aren’t ready to settle down. And the average 40 year old can possibly meet your standards.

Computer engineer in Silicon Valley. Writing about topics that interest me and may interest you.