Doesn’t sound like you are a privileged white guy. How about just being yourself.
Women say one thing but they often want something else. Women want you to be expressive about your feelings but very soon it becomes all about them. A man that is too vulnerable eventually loses respect in the eyes of his partner. Women won’t tell you this but they want you to be their rock not a pile of sand able to blow in any direction. I know a lot of women will vehemently deny this concept. Do what works for you.