Boys will be boys.
I know that’s an irksome expression. Men are wired differently. We aren’t just misbehaving females. Women who expect us to change into well-behaved females will be endlessly disappointed. Men can be very loving and very dedicated to the woman in their life. We hear your criticism, your persistent insistence that we should be more like a woman more civilized, more multitasking, more observant. It just makes us feel bad about ourselves and cranky.
As you may have seen during the Superbowl Men are single purposed able to block out everything to achieve a goal. Celebrate the fact that a man can concentrate on a task and accomplish a specific goal.
Survival of our species was based how the man could use his inner strength of character, go out and hunt animals on his own facing death and starvation to provide food for his family. The unsuccessful or weak man died. And his lineage died with it.
Grocery stores are a recent invention. Thousands of generations of humans were hunter/gatherers. Up until the 1880’s in America, if you wanted a steak you better have raised a beef cow. Training a man to not be a provider after thousands of years is not possible. You will make yourself very unhappy along with your partner trying to train the provider out of him.
Women have choices, you either try to train a man to be more like you and fail. Or you can honor the dedicated provider, the man that puts you on a pedestal. Compliment him when he fixes something or takes out the garbage. It means a lot to us. Admit it you love a man with tools that can fix stuff.